Solo

Sometimes when you’re routine oriented such as I am, you can find yourself sleep walking through life and not really capturing the moment as it unfolds.  That’s being in the present and not worrying about what tomorrow holds or looking in that rear view mirror called the past.  And me and that “rear view mirror” love and hate relationship gives me the blues.  I have to remind myself that I will eventually turn into a pillar of salt like Lot’s wife if I keep it up and Lord knows I don’t want that to happen.  The “shoulda, coulda, woulda,” is simply too great of a distraction.  So, just let it go!

Last Saturday, I stepped out like a “big girl” rolling solo with that great smile and no real mission other than to live in the present and enjoy myself.  And that’s what happened.  On my stroll, I first checked out some of my usual spots in uptown Dallas.  The crowd was great and of course the ambience was chic and more of a cocktail lounge which is the way I like it.  I got invited over to another event nearby which turned out not to be my crowd, but being the manners girl that I am, I stuck it out for a minute. When I say not my “crowd,” I’m referring to the fact that the venue didn’t have valet in effect.  That’s always a red flag for me because in my mind this speaks volumes about the type of patrons the venue is trying to draw and plus a girl needs her valet especially when she is solo, wearing stilettos or just because.  I know what you’re thinking about me and that’s probably right; as long as you know. LOL! I digress.  Well, after I finished shaking hands and kissing babies, I sashayed right on out of there and returned to my usual state as if I had never left.  I ran into people I knew and gained a few new associates.  The beauty of networking solo is it compels you to engage with others.   And for whatever reason or another, a fella is always coming from across the room or edging up from nearby.  I guess we are less “threatening” without our amen corner; our girls.  Or we might just be too preoccupied with our circle when we travel in numbers to notice we have been noted.  But to this, I say to the fellas, be bold and approach; we won’t bite even in packs.  Ladies, if you haven’t taken the solo stroll, try it and you will be elevated to “big girl” status instantly.  At the end of the night, I returned home with another check in my “shake things up” column.

Chante Prox is a family law attorney and mediator practicing in the Dallas/Fort Worth area @ www.barnesproxlaw.com or follow her on twitter @ https://twitter.com/chanteprox  for her sometimes random thoughts and whatnots.

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