Sometimes I wish we were still using payphones. At least you knew there was some effort in trying to be reached. I know it’s 2014 and dating in the digital world provides more options for gaining access to people. But, what happened to the bare basics of dating such as talking on the phone? I’m still very much a traditional girl and can probably speak for a lot of “grown” women. We still like phone calls! Men you got to pick up the phone sometimes and dial those digits. There’s nothing like hearing your voice and living in the moment with you over conversation. I understand the need for instant connection such as “text messaging” and can flex when necessary. But c’mon texting or messaging as the main form of communication shouldn’t be for grown folks. It’s too impersonal and juvenile. I know I might be stuck in the era of falling asleep on the phone and the world has moved on to bigger and better things. But, conversing over the phone is still hot! Dating in this age may have taken on some interesting twist but the fundamentals don’t really change. Talk time is still relevant in getting to know someone. What do you think? ~ XOXO Chante
The newly released video of Ravens NFL player Ray Rice slugging his now wife with a left hook and knocking her unconscious should put all the speculation about what occurred to rest. But funny enough, it hasn’t. People around social media are still trying to make a case for his actions with questions like who hit first and what was said to provoke his actions. I don’t know which one I’m more disgusted with, him or “you people.” Simply put, there is no justification for his actions! Is there ever one for domestic violence (DV)? It’s rhetorical in my mind.
Rice not only floors her, but stands back and watches her lying helpless on the floor and then drags her out the elevator like I drag my garbage to the curve for pick up. Not that this isn’t disturbing enough but did you notice what it appears he did before they entered the elevator; spit on her as she walked by. What kind of person is he, really and who does that? His on the field stats might be good, but this really speaks volumes about his character. I would find it hard to believe this was an isolated incident, because DV doesn’t just show up out the blue in a KO.
For Rice’s actions, he avoided prosecution under a plea deal which is not a surprise for “first time” offenders. NFL commissioner Roger Goodell handed down a two game suspension. Then after public backlash, he admitted he made a mistake (didn’t punish Rice enough) and revised the league’s domestic violence policy with tougher penalties. The new policy imposes a six-game suspension for first-time offenders, and a potential lifetime ban for repeat offenders. But will the new policy apply to Rice in light of the “new” video? Or is a deal a deal? The NFL claims it didn’t see first video before making a decision but surely the investigators did or got the accounts of the incident in question from the mouth of the parties. At least you would think so. So something is not adding up here. Plus, I’m not sure why the league was waiting on law enforcement to send them the video when I’m sure Rice’s defense team had a copy of it in their possession.
All I know is football is a giant among us and the NFL has to do better. It should not have taken a video to surface for the league to address domestic violence by players. And the tweet sent out by the Ravens’ organization back in May indicating that Rice’s wife (and victim) was sorry for the role she played in getting KO’d is shameful and smells like a smear campaign. In response to more public outrage about the video released by TMZ today, the Ravens cut Rice from the team and the NFL suspended him indefinitely (but he can seek to be reinstated). Now, let the lawsuits begin …the real truth about what was known and not known will come out. I suspect more terminations/resignations.