Waiting well

I’m reminded often that this journey of life involves waiting which sometimes sucks. Whether it’s waiting in line at the airport or to get your favorite espresso at the coffee shop or for that big break in your life or love interest, waiting can be irksome. But, waiting is life. It’s unavoidable. When one something arrives, we can find ourselves waiting on something else. Nevertheless, there are benefits to holdups in our lives. Waiting builds patience which delivers self-discipline.  It increases your faith and sometimes ushers in a level of discovery about oneself that may not otherwise be apparent.  Take me for instance, my singleness has become an attractive feature in my life now that the focus is not on the delay but adjusting to the circumstances on purpose.  That’s waiting well.

I’m enjoying life even more and pleasantly smile at all the paths I thought I wanted.  God knows best.  XOXO ~ Chante

Chante Prox is a family law attorney and mediator practicing in the Dallas/Fort Worth area @ http://www.barnesproxlaw.com or follow her on twitter @ https://twitter.com/chanteprox for her sometimes random thoughts and whatnots.

Disclaimer: This information should not be considered as legal advice. Decisions should be based on consultation with a licensed attorney. This blog is for informative purposes only.

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Growth spurts

There’s this commercial where kids are telling their parents to take a vacation and how it’s a shame to accumulate vacation time and do nothing with it. I can’t recall the product or company in the advertisement but the message was clear – take some time off from work and enjoy the life you are working to build. What good is life anyways if you don’t live it?

I remember like it was yesterday when I first started my practice (and years thereafter), I wouldn’t take off and would be afraid to leave town. Lol! I thought things would break down or I would lose out on an opportunity (i.e. money). And, I won’t mention having to do those time consuming “vacation notices” we are required to send out which sometimes are ignored and your case still ends up on the court’s docket. Shaking my head.

I’m thankful my entrepreneurial spirit has matured and I’m balancing work and play each day now. That’s growth which I’m proud of especially as I look out into these turquoise waters in reflection mode. Pauses – to take in another wave sound.

As you reflect on your 2014 and if you determine you have fallen short on some goals, don’t be hard on yourself but instead focus on the growth you have achieved no matter how little you think it is and build from that. I’ve learned that being a good steward of small things is a perquisite for the growth spurts.

Another New Year is just around the corner and as you contemplate on your resolutions, remember all you need is faith as small as a mustard seed to move mountains. Happy 2015! XOXO ~ Chante

Chante Prox is a family law attorney and mediator practicing in the Dallas/Fort Worth area @ http://www.barnesproxlaw.com or follow her on twitter @ https://twitter.com/chanteprox for her sometimes random thoughts and whatnots.

Disclaimer: This information should not be considered as legal advice. Decisions should be based on consultation with a licensed attorney. This blog is for informative purposes only.

Holding Pattern … it’s not safe to land

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With my saga over the years, it amazes me that I’m hopeful and still embrace the girly fairy tales of love that play out in my head. I remind myself often that matters of the heart requires faith and patience but most of all courage. When the love scars haven’t quite scabbed over it takes courage to give you permission to try love again. My oldest sister asked me one time if I would remarry and I replied without reservation “yes.” She smiled but gave me that big sister frown she gives when she thinks you got to be out of your mind! But, the funny thing is, she’s still married to her “high school sweetheart” which might be the source of her animated demeanor. No shade brother-in-law (with a straight face).

With all this buoyancy there is no doubt the distractions that can sometimes shake my faith especially when it appears the “bad girls” are having all the fun. I probably should stop watching “trash TV” as a friend of mine refers to it, but only if it was that simple. The reality TV world we live in will be and if not some other trend will definitely pop up. So if it was in what I see and don’t see, I would have given up long time ago. I’m thankful my hope lies in my faith and God’s promises to me.

I’m not above doubting Thomas and not afraid to admit that I feel some type of way at times about this holding pattern I find my love life in. God and I have chatted about this predicament many times and I’m resolved in the fact that it’s just not safe to land. Just like a plane has to maintain its flight path until it gets permission to land so it is for me. Patience is the key and as a colleague who I affectionately call “first lady” said to me “let patience have her perfect work.” For me walking by faith and not by sight takes on an even heightened meaning on this journey of love. I get restless and edgy at times as passengers often do when the plane is flying a hold. To calm the situation, the pilot gets on the mic to offer words of reassurance.  My Pilot does the same and I want to encourage you to hold on.

In the meantime, what shall I do until the runway is clear? Live my life to the fullest and be the person I want to attract. That’s simple enough.

To my girlfriends and the “good girls” who stand in my shoes believe as I do “one day love will find you or meet you somewhere in the middle.” Hang in there! ~ XOXO Chante